Blog Posts

  • Hockey is family, especially at the worst of times

    I’ve written two blogs about loss of someone you don’t know today. One for someone who was in my life for half of my life (the wonderful Matthew Perry), and this one for someone I never met, and didn’t even know of if I’m honest, until he tragically died.  Adam Johnson was a new player…

  • On losing a 'friend' you never met

    Or how Matthew Perry’s death is a big deal to many of us. I always remember a teacher when I was in Sixth Form telling us ‘you’ll always remember when the first friend your age dies’. She went on to explain that of course we expect older relatives, people in our lives, and celebrities even…

  • Queer Aliens and Gay Folks…happy publication day!

    Or a book culmination of nerdery. Today ‘Gay Aliens and Queer Folks, how Russell T Davies changed TV’ comes out. That moment of abject terror before anyone has really read it, but also an opportunity to talk about it before anyone has read it.  Thanks for reading Queer Notebook ! Subscribe for free to receive…

  • Waiting for a book to come out…

    (ohcrapIwroteabook) It won’t have escaped anyone’s notice that I have a book coming out soon. And having to type that, is part of the reason to write this post. I’m well aware I’m annoying to some folks about it. I’m well aware it’s in part tedious to listen to. But also the anxiety of being…

  • Friend Dumped

    I got friend-dumped this week. Literally told ‘we can’t be friends any more.’ Now if that happened with a romantic partner, I’d be allowed to be truly devastated, to wallow, be sad, go full Bridget Jones. But somehow, we don’t talk about the impact of losing friends in the same terms. Despite the fact, they…